Next Wednesday Webinar “Anxiety & Test Taking in School” is August 19

LOGO2Join us for our next webinar in the Wednesday Webinar series on August 19, 2015, from 7:30pm to 8:30pm EST.

Students from elementary to high school are taking more tests than ever. How does the anxiety around testing affect them and their results? This webinar will give parents and students alike ways to identify stressors and help students cope with the anxiety around test taking.

Dr. Colleen Martinez is a licensed clinical social worker and a registered play therapy supervisor with more than 20 years experience providing clinical services to children and their families. She has worked in hospital, correctional, outpatient mental health, private practice, and school settings, and specializes in play therapy and treating children. In her private practice, she provides supervision and consultation to individuals and agencies, particularly regarding interventions with children. She provides school based play therapy to preschoolers in Irvington, NJ and is also a part time lecturer at Rutgers University in their MSW program.

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The 8 Things This Parent of a Child with Tourette Wants You to Know

As a parent of a child with Tourette Syndrome these 8 things are obvious. Here is my list of what I want folks to know:

  1. I have looked into ways of helping my child with tics and each kid is different. Saying it is sugar or video games is not the cause of the condition.
  2. Telling my child to stop or calm down does not help—it makes it worse.
  3. When you speak of his condition in front of him (just like any condition) he can still hear you!
  4. No, there is not a “fix it all pill.”
  5. The best medicine is for the person the child trusts to allow them to work one on one (without anyone interrupting us) each time a new tic comes on or when an existing one is worse than the last 6. Ignore it and let the parent handle it—please—and thanks!
  6. Usually the best medicine in reducing the tics is physical play—whether it is cleaning, chores, fixing something, being given a challenging puzzle, helping a kid who is not as intelligent because YES most all kids with Tourette’s are also highly intelligent.

To add to the above, here are some things that would be helpful to hear to assist the parent/child:

  1. “I understand you need time, let me leave you all be. If you need assistance, please let me know how/what I can do to help.”
  2. “Is there anything the child has or a place the child can go that calms them down to help release the tics? If so let me establish a place in public forums for this to happen.”
  3. “I am aware that the tics will change from day to day depending on various ways each child’s mind works—that is the whole reason each is different is due to the brain waves in each human mind working differently. No two stars are alike, no two snowflakes, and no two brains will ever be the same…ever and yet it is refreshing and scary all at the same time—same with death…no two deaths are the same and it is impossible to predict.”

Here is what would be helpful to reduce the amount of work I have to put into each public arena (i.e. school):

  1. Mandatory conference that all school staff attends—especially nurses or aide givers in the school should know how to handle a child with tics.
  2. Areas where a child can go with any neurological or physical disability where they can “let loose” and get their mind clear however they need.
  3. Natural examples of how the mind can heal itself from anything it is thinking.

52 Weeks of TS: Week 46

EDITOR’S NOTE: Every Tuesday, noted Tourette Syndrome advocate Troye Evers shares his “52 Weeks of TS” blog journal with the TSParentsOnline community. With just 6 weeks remaining in this series, there’s a chance you missed one more entries from his exciting, revealing journey. You can read all of them here. For more information about Troye, please click on his name or visit his website.

I’m tired!! I have to say, I think this has been one of the longest, most exhausting weeks that I’ve had in a while. I had a freelance job doing hair and makeup for a high school musical, which I do about 5 times a year, but this one was different. I usually design the show three weeks in advance, but I missed two weeks. I ended up designing the show on Monday, and we opened on Wednesday. This just made for a very stressful week, not anxiety, but a lot of stress.

Just like anxiety, stress triggers my tics, so it’s been a very ticcy week. I feel as if my brain has been bouncing around inside my skull all week. My neck tic has been bad all week, and I’ve been taking aspirin for the constant headache that does not seem to go away.
Usually, I try not to suppress my tics in my everyday life, but while I’m working in the high school all bets are off. I just feel as if I have to suppress them.

I guess it has to do with my own high school experience. There was always constant mocking and my fellow students were always making fun of me. Once I walk back into a school, it tends to bring me back to that time and place. It’s a cruel world we live in. I try not to suppress my tics in many adult situations, but when you’re dealing with uneducated ignorance and immaturity of high school kids, it can be hard to explain. How do you teach someone something who thinks that they know everything?

A person with Tourette Syndrome has to have thick skin. It’s not something we are born with, but we have to grow it. I thought about this a lot this week, and I’ve realized that we have been supplied the greatest weapon for our fight to educate — our mouth. The more we open our mouths, the thicker our skin becomes and the stronger we become, but it can be a hard thing to do.

When we are kids, we are scared, nervous and possibly beaten down by ignorance. It can take a lot for those shy kids to battle their own fears and demons, to turn around and speak about the very thing that has brought them down. Look at me. It took me about 15 years to start my battle against ignorance, and I still deal with fear. Despite the fear, I still try to fight the fight and continue to educate people.

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Self-control is very difficult with Impulse Control Disorder

There are things my son says and does that are out of his control. I only wish more people would be understanding of this, especially people that he is around almost daily. Not only is he living with Tourette Syndrome, he is also struggling with other underlying disorders, one of which is Impulse Control Disorder.

Within his impulse control, he may say things at the wrong time or make a joke at the wrong time. Inside his mind, these are totally acceptable. He may call someone a name — “stupid” or “idiot” — and not realize that it is going to hurt their feelings. He may burst out with anger saying things that are really offensive toward those he loves and later apologize because he realized his actions have hurt someone.

He has a lot of anger built up every day, and he has no idea how to deal with it other than letting it out. He has gotten so much better at releasing it through stress exercise; however, nobody is perfect. So I ask that, if anyone who is around a child like Kane hears this, or sees the rage, please understand nobody but that child knows what is going on inside.

I love my little stinker to the moon and back! 

Why one size doesn’t fit all when it comes to ADHD

There’s often a pattern when it comes to the many different treatments of ADHD. Each one shows improvement in some children, but not in all. Each treatment needs to be carefully regulated by parents and pediatricians to make sure none of the treatments overlap in a way that could be dangerous to the child. Some of these treatments target specific symptoms of ADHD, but not the others.

These precautions, in conjunction with the different forms of ADHD, mean one thing: there is no one “cure” for ADHD because there is no one expression of ADHD. Each child’s treatment will depend on all sorts of factors such as:

  • Type of ADHD
  • Health
  • Allergies
  • Learning Style
  • Other Disabilities
  • Safety at Home
  • Good Nutrition

And this list is by no means exclusive. My point is that it’s not fair for parents to be judged for not trying a new “miracle cure.” The children I’ve worked with in different schools and in tutoring generally thrive under multiple sources of assistance. Some of the management strategies may surprise you, too. Most benefit from a mix of medication, a balanced diet, and these non-medical treatment sources:

  • Exercise – In the article, “Taking Away Recess Bad for ADHD Kids, Experts Say,” Thomas Lenz, an associate pharmacy professor at Creighton University in Omaha, Nebraska,  says that exercise and ADHD medications act on the brain in very similar ways. In addition, according to NOVA’s article, “The Science of Smart: A Surprising Way To Improve Executive Function,” exercise is one of the best ways to improve executive function struggles, a symptom most children with ADHD struggle with.
  • An Organized Home – Children with ADHD often struggle to pick up basic organizational skills and habits such as having one spot for homework or knowing how to follow a basic evening routine. ADDitude Magazine’s article, “Help Your ADHD Child Organize Homework,” stresses that it’s important for parents to work with their children to develop healthy organizational skills as they grow so they’re more prepared to carry those skills into the world with them.
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – CBT is often an effective treatment for individuals with OCD, but experts are finding that it can be helpful for children with ADHD as well. U.S. News Health’s article,  “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Can Help With ADHD,” says, “CBT for children with ADHD is aimed largely at improving their behavior through praise and rewards that motivate them to calm down enough to cope with school or other challenges.” The article states that while CBT won’t cure ADHD, it helps children learn thinking and self-management skills. If mastered, these skills can last far beyond any medication.

Different Kids, Different Needs

Parenting a child with ADHD is not an easy task by any means. It’s time consuming all the time, and it takes a lot of trial and error. A certain diet and medication that works for one child will probably not work for the next. And on top of that, children’s dosages and treatments will need to constantly change as their bodies and brains grow.

If you’re the parent of a child with ADHD, don’t let people guilt you into only one form of management for your child. No matter how much they promise you “just need this one treatment,” odds are that your child will have his or her own needs that are mixed and multifaceted. The best you can do is try, and when one treatment doesn’t work, don’t consider yourself a failure. Simply move on to the next and know that you’re doing your best. Your attempts to meet your children’s needs will encourage his or her teachers and other supporting adults to do the same, and as a team, you’re giving your kiddo the best chance he’s got. And isn’t that what every parent wants?

Do you have experience with ADHD management? What are you thoughts on the issue? What was successful for your, or what wasn’t? Please share your thoughts in the Comment Box below. And don’t forget, you can sign up for my newsletter for extra resources on neurological disorders, education, and spiritual encouragement. As always, thanks for reading!